Blame It On The Rain

Luke Coutinho

 

With thanks to Dianne Warren for the title ~  and to Milli Vanilli for being the "front"....

This is like the second part to Spotlight on Darkness as this psycho-tactic gained traction about twenty years ago and rapidly elevated itself to a major catch-all blame in both spiritual and psychotherapy camps. It is another huge mental-emotional warfare control agenda designed to cripple spiritual growth and perpetually feed both medical and psychotherapy industries.

And just like the earlier post, this was also something that I had wanted to highlight, spotlight and call out for quite some time. Synchronicity sent me relevant quotations in the past couple of weeks that echo my thoughts on this, so thank you to Synchronicity as well.

Blame vs Self-Accountability

Blaming something or someone else is so easy and such a convenient way of letting ourselves slip away from self-accountability. Is it so wrong to blame someone or something else, if that's really what happened? Of course not! There is a huge difference between assigning blame for who/what caused the situation, and assigning blame for allowing the situation to continue unaddressed. 

To take an extreme example: An individual can blame the drunk driver for killing his entire family and leaving him confined to a wheelchair. However, to continue to blame the driver and allow the tragedy to slowly destroy him by not trying to live his life again....that is also in itself tragic. If he refuses to do anything to help himself heal and instead chooses to spend his life-energy on blaming the driver, then each day that passes is a day squandered and gone forever.

He has effectively given away total control of his life to this driver by holding on to the blame instead of working to improve his situation. In essence, it's like allowing the accident to successfully wreck the individual's life for good if the individual continues to focus on the blame instead of doing what he can to make his life better.

Each moment, he has the fresh opportunity to take back control of his own life, heal and move forward. Or he can continue to choose to be powerless by blaming the driver and doing nothing to help his situation. I know middle-aged people who still blame their now-deceased parents and childhood for their current setbacks, refusing to help themselves make adjustments to improve; it is both self-defeating and self-sabotaging.

Blame is so deceptively simple while healing and being self-accountable is hard work, this much is true....for the short-term. Ultimately, the former can eventually destroy the individual while the latter leads to life-changing improvement.

Getting Off The Boat

Caroline Myss

There is no denying that therapy has a place in healing from trauma by providing a "safe" place for cathartic dialogue and liberation/transformation of trapped energy (emotions). Oftentimes a pair of neutral listening ears and a supportive attitude can provide the precise prescription to help propel the individual forward, or at least take that important first step in the right direction. However, if the process is enabling individuals to continuously blame others for their situation, foster life-long dependency or arrests forward movement, then there's certainly something very wrong.

Therapy must have a limit ~ the boat must take us across the river, and once we reach the other side, we must get off.

I've said earlier that talking about the trauma can provide huge healing, but when individuals are repeatedly re-hashing their stories, it goes against proper healing. Reliving trauma by thinking or talking about it over and over and over again is not much different than actually being in it ~ it's all energy and that's how our psyche sees and interprets it.....as an actual experience. 

Here's how friend described this dark side of therapy ~ "It's like a wound that's healing, and then every time the patient digs up the trauma during therapy, the wound is opened up again." And to that I add ~ open wounds are more susceptible to fresh infections....read: suggestibility and vulnerability to adversity.

 

Let It Go

Nikita Gill via Tiny Buddha

LET IT GO. This has become something like a mantra in this blog because I've said it so often. But it truly is the one of the most basic and simplest thing to do when we wish to really heal from a situation. Bearing in mind that our psyche perceives through interpreting energy ~ whether it's a real experience or a mental thought/spoken words, it's seen as the same thing.

One of the things I usually suggest for healing is this ~ blame all you want, scream the loudest and longest you can, rant and rave, sob, judge the heck out of the person. ...but set a timer. Give yourself 10 minutes, an hour, 24 hours, a week. And then LET.IT.GO.

Letting go relieves us of unwanted baggage that drags us down further into the pit. Letting go means releasing our vise-like grip on someone else's chains so we can move forward. Letting go means breaking out of the self-imprisonment so we have the freedom to shape our life, freedom to discover who we really are, freedom to express a higher reality.

Letting go is the first step, and then we just do what we can moment by moment, one baby step at a time.

If there's one thing I need to add to "Let it go", it would be "....and don't pick it up again."

 

Suffering Is Optional

Empaths, Old Souls & Introverts

Culture, tradition, religion, nationalism and society ~ they are all designed to be instrumental in making us believe there's honour and integrity in suffering. Martydom is held in very high regard instead of seeing it for what it truly is ~ a sacrificial program.

Suffering is optional, it is entirely up to the individual if they wish to take it on or choose better instead. Suffering gets us no where except into unnecessary misery and unwarranted martyrdom.

Moving On & Growing Into The Light

Due to the long and winding past Humanity has had, we have been up against countless blocks and barriers that stood in our way of spiritual growth. We have been like putty in the hands of the control system for far too long, and this is the time when we are receiving so much support to stand up and say NO!!! IT ENDS HERE AND IT ENDS NOW! This is the gift of Ascension we've been bestowed and this is something each one of us must extend our hands out to receive. This is the time we focus on our personal journey and not be swayed by all that's being done to prevent our Ascension. 

The past pain and history do not define our Now, they do not define our True Self.

We reclaim our self-accountability, we reclaim our self-empowerment, we reclaim our self-love.

We grow our own Divine Light within and stand strong in our Sovereignty.

We place the control of our lives back into our own hands where it belongs.

Namarie! 💗